REHC Video: Noticing Changes in Adolescence
From birth, children are constantly changing. However, during adolescence, changes can be a little more drastic. In this video, Dr. Berney discusses the importance of allowing adolescents to exercise their individuality by exploring change.
REHC Video: Loving Your Children
While it is a given that we love our children, we sometimes need a reminder of what love really is. In this clip Dr. Berney uses a well known Bible verse as a model for the best way to love our children.
REHC: Helping Your Child Problem Solve
In the age of technology, children often solve problems by calling their parent and seeking guidance. While this ensures that they make the right choice at the time, it does not foster independence or the critical thinking skills necessary for healthy development. Parents are encouraged to put their children in situations where they need to […]
REHC: Hearing vs. Listening
Hearing is a physiological process, while listening is a psychological process. While we often hear our children, there are times when we are not listening to them. Listening requires attention and interest. The more you listen to them, the more your children will talk to you.
REHC: Giving Good Attention
Parents are very good at identifying times when their children break the rules or behave inappropriately. However, it is important that parents balance good feedback with their redirection. We recommend a 5:1 ratio of good/reinforcement statements to negative/redirection comments. In this clip, Dr. Berney describes an example so parents can understand how they can find […]
REHC: Availability
There is a difference between being present and being available. Just because you are there, does not mean that your child knows that you are available for him/her to approach and talk to you. So often parents become frustrated that their children (especially teenagers) will not talk to them, yet the children tend to have […]
REHC: A Better Response Than “No”
As infants turn into toddlers, they begin to have their own thoughts, ideas, and motivations. One of the most challenging things for parents is the child’s new use of the word “No.” Why is “No” one of the first words for most children? It is likely because it is the most common word they hear. […]