In previous blog posts, I have mentioned some of my concerns regarding our youth today. While I believe that they are generally smarter and more experienced than previous generations, I can’t help but wonder if some of the things we, as adults, are doing will actually make life more difficult for them.
Unlike previous generations, the overall perspective today is that most youth will go to college. High schools are set up for this expectation, identifying themselves as college-preparatory institutions. And, yes, I am referring to “regular” public schools.
Because college is, in essence, expected, students are pressured to compete for acceptance at “preferred” colleges, as a sense of accomplishment and success. It is one thing to get accepted into your local state or community college, it is something else to be accepted into one of the big universities.
In addition to the social and family pressures that guide students down this path, our current trends in education – including high stakes testing – certainly reinforce the perspective that high schools are a precursor to college. Students must not only take and pass challenging courses, such as algebra and biology, they must also pass state mandated End of Course exams in these classes if they hope to graduate with a regular high school diploma.
Now, if your goal is to have a landscaping business, why do you need biology? Sure it expands you knowledge base, and sure it helps formulate your understanding of the world you live in, but is that the goal of high school? Do we really feel that it is OK for these students to fail to receive a standard diploma when they have no interest in college and cannot pass the courses that are designed, primarily, to prepare students for college?
Where the pressure on students is really seen is in the expectations for grades. Again, this expectation is held by parents and teachers, alike. And as a result, it is often held by the students, as well.
When you look at the grading scale, it is broken down like this:
A – Excellent
B – Above Average
C – Average
D – Below Average
F – Failed
If a C is average, why is it that parents, teachers, and students expect As? Sure, there are many students who are capable of earning all As, but most aren’t. Well, I guess the right way to say it is that if an A truly means Excellent (i.e., well above average), most shouldn’t be able to earn all As. Instead, these exceptional grades should be reserved for the two or three percent of the class that performs at the highest level.
But that is not how things work today. Instead, As – and sometimes Bs, but only if the class is really hard – is the expectation. They are seen as the only acceptable grade. This perspective has a multitude of unexpected consequences that we – as the parents – and our children must endure now and into the future.
There seems to be five primary consequences to the elevated expectations our students are held to today.
While none of us are in a position to change this systemic view, we can make changes in our homes. If you have a student, make sure you appreciate his/her unique strengths and weaknesses. Should he/she really be a college bound student, or does his/her interests lie in an area that does not require a college degree? Make sure he/she knows all of his/her options. Trade schools and vocational opportunities can be invaluable for many students, offering them options that they would have otherwise never known existed, or were valued.
We all want a good plumber when we have a leak in the house. Yet, we do not encourage our kids to understand that such trades are options for them. Expand your child’s awareness. Help him/her understand that hard work is the key, not the final grade. And encourage them to pursue their passion, as opposed to a prescribed path that could lead them nowhere.
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